Depression Blog

Here are 10 steps I follow on a daily basis to help control my depression and negativity.

1. Make time for you

2. Be Selfish

3. Don’t feel guilty

4. Stop fearing what may happen

5. Get out and be more active

6. Know your own mind

7. Stop feeling sorry for yourself

8. Give yourself routine

9. Don’t feed your negative thoughts

10. Believe in yourself and what you can achieve

I have been following these steps now for nearly 2 months and I can already feel the difference, you do have to motivate yourself daily but perseverance is the key to success.

Fear is one of the most common emotions for us all, however I don’t believe we were born with the ability to connect to this part of our brain.

Somewhere along the transition from birth to approximately 3 years of age we all seem to gain this sixth sense of fear and what it is to be afraid.

A small child of 2 years appears to have no fear, they don’t seem to grasp danger and are totally unaware of themselves.

Most parents know if you allowed a child of this age to stumble alone on the side walk then it wouldn’t be long before the child would head towards the road without a care in the world.

I believe that parents and family bring fear into a child from a very small age, often from projecting their own fears on to the child.

Within a depressed person fear is more prominent than usual, a whole life can be revolved around dramatic fear which in turn manifests itself into anxiety.

However if a thought process has been planted into a brain then surely it can be removed.

The basic elements may stay but the fear and self destruction that leads to panic attacks and some forms of O.C.D should be treatable?

This quote is a very raw and open glance into some one’s soul, and brings home how depression affects your thought process and negativity.

I am counting on a new beginning,

The very reason for living.

- Anonymous

I found out recently after some time of hiding it inside that someone I called a friend was not a friend at all.

She manipulates people to get what she wants and makes people feel bad so she can get some sort of controlling feeling from it.

It did take some time of me thinking she wasn’t a very nice person before deleting her number and ignoring her calls.

I had spoken to her about things she has said and done before and she was quite flippant about it and disregarded the way she upsets people, as if it was their problem and nothing to do with her.

Sometimes I can’t help but think who needs enemies when you have friends like this?

This is a very simple way of describing the unity of marriage.

Whilst reflecting on a book as their life together, the author had been able to take a very objective point of view on how this relationship may appear to the naked eye.

I know someday when I review the life that we two shared,

On every page and in every line I will find your love is there

From chapter one to final page, through sorrows and through laughter,

This thought will echo through our book “They lived happily ever after”.

And when our covers come to have some wrinkles undenied,

Just remember when it comes to books what counts is whats inside

No matter what each chapter holds the struggles and the strife,

We’ll be co-authors as we pen this book we call out life.

- Anonymous

When I am having what I would call a good day I still find it hard to focus.

Depression is the one thing I find it hard to take my mind off, Its a constant struggle for anyone to hold my concentration for any period of time.

Although keeping busy is a good way of fighting these thoughts it isnt the best way for me to switch off.

For years I have wanted to be able to have a proper conversation with people around me without loosing all interest and my mind wandering.

I used to get to the point where I would just look around the room or at anything but the person who was talking to me and occasionally I would find an excuse to walk away.

This is quite self destructive and I often found myself being referred to as rude which in turn made me isolate myself from the world.

Now I make that extra effort to hold conversations and not find I want or need a way out.

You see, it was all about my personal space; Id get to a point where I would feel invaded and need to get some space and room to breath.

When I know I am going into a situation where I will maybe have a conversation with someone I always without fail take a couple of big breaths before entering the environment.

Not only does this give me time to slow the sheer panic that takes over my body but it gives me time to adjust.

This quote is a classic example of how we get anxious over something that is in actual fact not very important in the grand scheme of things.

Worry is not a necessity but a habit.

- Anonymous

After months of wondering if I would even be offered an interview I finally have one today.

Handing in applications and emailing my curriculum vitae are part of my every day life at the moment, but all I want is to find a job I’m happy in.

I’m sick of feeling like I’m letting everyone down by being out of work.

Not having money is a struggle for me, I want to be able to go out with my boyfriend and do things together but this is hard when you have no money.

I’m starting to realise that it is increasingly getting me down, and I feel no sense of accomplishment in my life.

I feel the need to make myself proud more than anyone else though.

Maybe this is the start I need, the one thing that will make me happy at this moment in time?

This book is really informative with case studies documented to broaden your knowledge of depression.

A book that makes you ask questions which in my opinion is exactly the inspiration needed when you are at your lowest.

Not just a book for those who suffer from depression but also a great read for those supporting someone who suffers from depression.

Richard O’Conner is quick to admit this book will not improve or cure your depression by itself although he does go on to say that detailed in this book is how to increase the likelihood of overcoming depression.

To me Undoing Depression is a book all about overcoming your ignorance and giving you the opportunity to take a step towards a brighter future.

Sometimes we are fortunate enough to realise we have been blinded by some of our own misconceptions, this book has been a real eye opener for me.

There is a significant following of this book and a lot of people who have read it would recommend it to anyone. It goes without saying that you can find many outstanding reviews of this book online.

Unlike a lot of books on this subject matter I was quickly drawn in by the authors personal experience with depression which I found added to the books readability.

The core of this book is all about what therapy doesn’t give you and what medication can’t give you however I am certain this book can give you everything else you may need on your journey.

Where to get Undoing Depression

Purchase Undoing Depression on Amazon.com

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Depression often causes people to stand alone in one way or another and shelter themselves from those around them.

This is what I call the period of isolation and most sufferers have been through this at one point or another.

It is hard when you feel you want to hide from the world especially when you are mainly hiding from those you care about most.

I have spent days under my duvet just wishing the hours away, hoping this feeling would pass or that the struggle would end.

Whilst in this terrible place the only things I had any time for were my cat and dog, they used to come and see me and snuggle with me in bed.

This was the only love I ever felt in my darkness and the only thing that helped me step back out into the light.

These feelings can pass though, with a little determination and a lot of patience we can all get through this.

My saviours were my animals because we all need someone to live on for, who do you live for?